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I know from experience and also from what I have observed elsewhere, even with some of my own friends—that strict parenting can cause a child to be deceitful, rebellious, insecure, and in the worst cases, turn to substance abuse to deal with their tribulations. Many parents think that the more rules they enforce upon their children the better off they will be, but this is not always the case. Although strict parenting is a good thing, it needs its boundaries.
According to **storify.com, There are 4 types of parents; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Authoritarian parenting is a strict military style parenting where the parents have full control over the child and the child has no say, this type of parenting is common in African families. One step below this is authoritative parenting, where the parents have authority over the child, but within reason. There are certain rules and expectations in place, but parents are more nurturing and uphold a closer relationship with the child. Below this is permissive parenting, where parents are more lenient on the child and have less rules. And lastly uninvolved parenting, this is when parents are very minimally involved in the child’s life; they lack any kind of rules or structure and allow the child to do as they please. Of these four types of parenting styles authoritative parenting is the best choice. It is the perfectbalance of structure and guidance, while still allowing the child to express themselves; and authoritative parenting allows for a better child parent relationship. Each type of parenting style has a different effect on the child; though strict parenting has its benefits, parents should sincerely consider leaning more towards authoritative parenting strategies, rather than authoritarian parenting. Numerous studies have shown the negative effects of overly strict parenting, one of the biggest issues with adolecents is rebelling against parental structure. There are many reasons for adolescents to rebel against the enforcement of strict parenting; For example, children that are forbidden to date are most likely going to date behind their parents back, leading them to be dishonest with their parents. If a teenager has an unreasonably early curfew, this may lead the teen to sneaking out, or lying to their parents about their whereabouts. Also, kids who are under extreme pressure to succeed academically or in sports may resort to substance abuse as a way to escape the pressure and anxiety inflicted upon them by their parents.
The article below outlines the negative effects that overly strict parenting can have on a child. These are things such as behavioral problems, sexual activity and alcohol abuse. The article quotes, “Markham says the strict parent deprives children of the opportunity to learn self-discipline, because all control and decisions come from the parent.” When a parent has full control over a child it doesn’t give them any room to express themselves. “If punitive discipline is used, the teen is also more likely to be rebellious, angry or depressed, become overweight or become an excellent liar.” As I mentioned previously, children are more likely to rebel against strict parenting because they are not given enough freedom, and this quote validates that statement. “Adolescents who were more closely monitored by their parents were about 30 percent less likely to be sexually active than teens whose parents were less watchful during the pre-adolescent period. Parental style can also affect teens’ decisions about drinking and the amount they consume, according to a December 2010 article on National Public Radio” (Greenwood). This quote directly relates to my overall idea that strict parenting does have these negative effects on a child. Studies have proved these things to be true, they have proved that overly strict parenting is the cause of children being dishonest, rebellious, and in the long run making negative decisions. Overall teenagers and children of all ages are going to make bad decisions, this comes with the trials and tribulations of life; but the way a parent raises their child plays a big role in decision making throughout the child’s life. Not only will constant pressure from strict parents cause a child to lash out or resort to substance abuse, it can also highly affect a child’s self esteem. The following article explains the long-term effects of overly strict authoritarian parenting. It explains how authoritarian parenting can affect a child socially, mentally, and emotionally. I would like to stress the positive effects of Authoritative parenting. Although this type of parenting style is still strict, it has its limits. It is not as much of an aggressive approach as Authoritarian; it is the most effective and healthy way to parent a child. I personally never resorted to alcohol abuse or drug use, but that is not the case with all children that come from an extremely strict parental household.
In conclusion, parents should actually be their kid’s confidant. The tend to make lesser mistakes than when they are miles away from their parents. The art of caging and taking away their freedom can cause more harm than good. Most African parents neglet the constant change and power circle in this generation. The silent pain most kids go through could end up in suicidial decisions.
Greenwood, Beth. “The Effects of Having StrictParents on Teenagers.” Global Post. Demand Media. Web. 26 Feb.2015.
Walton, Stephen. “Authoritarian ParentingStyle.” The Positive Parenting Centre. The Positive ParentingCentre, 1 Jan. 2012. Web. 26 Feb. 2015.
Cuhna, Darlena. “The Positive Effects of Strict Ruleson Teens.” Everyday Life. Demand Media. Web. 1 Mar. 2015.
“Strict Authoritarian Parenting: Long TermPsychological Effects.” Strict Authoritarian Parenting: Long TermPsychological Effects. Web.